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A leader usually has the following qualities:
A leader does not mean that that individual is a better person than everyone else. They are only a person with more of something, not better.
Most leaders have these that bring them back to earth:
- More failures
- More worries
- More responsibilities
- More pressure
- More people affected by their leadership if they err
Is it no wonder that the most influential leaders across history have been servant leaders who see themselves as not better, but a role model and example, an inspiration, a source of confidence that the people who follow them feel safe by them.
Leaders are not better unless they make their people better as a whole.
“Why?” asks the employee to their boss.
“Because that’s our policy,” the boss retorts.
Not a great way to exhibit leadership you might say. One can assume the employee walks away from that interaction feeling diminished, not being able to get an honest answer to their question.
Which in turn offers the question: Do we value rules over the benefit of solid working relationships with our people?
Rules – policies, procedures, behavioral guidelines – are necessary. They govern actions to ensure synergy, compliance and trustworthy actions.
Yet relationships can achieve those same things with more effective impact.
People are more relationship driven than rules driven. When they feel a connection, a place of valuation and inspiration, they invariably give more of a concentrated effort and their performance will be better as a result.
Think of the sports team whose coach demands execution versus the one who inspires the players to be their best. Many of the greatest sports teams that have existed – and military platoons that fought for their commander and companies whose employees were appreciated by their owners – attained that because they worked hard for their coach due to the relationship that was forged. They gave that coach, commander, owner their all as a result of the relationship. Not because of the rules they imposed.
Rules are necessary. Relationships are desired.
Be the leader who enforces relationships, not just rules.
There are generally two types of people:
In any transaction, someone generally creates a good or service for another to consume.
That type of relationship is healthy and symbiotic for business and economics as a whole. But the creator/consumer system is disastrous for an organizational culture, personal relationship or even a political/citizen dynamic.
If one tends to be consumer only, without regard for how they create value to the relationship or cultural dynamic, the institution impacted can cease to exist.
Consider a spouse who demands the other cater to their needs without reciprocating. A boss who wants their employees to do their bidding so they look good and meet bonuses. An employee who sucks all the attention from their leaders, or one who takes credit from the efforts of the team without contributing.
Citizens that demand their government provide for them without being discerning voters. And politicians who gain office to impose their hidden agendas on an unsuspecting people.
In any social situation, there is always a creator/consumer dynamic that always exists. When balanced, with each faction contributing to make the other party better in serving them, the dynamic works.
When it’s lopsided with all consumers and no on contributing, the whole thing becomes in danger of falling apart.
Consuming itself it not an issue. And consuming a lot is not an issue. But if your contributions are dwarfed by your consumer disposition, imbalance has occurred. But it’s an easy fix.
Be mindful to create and contribute more than you consume.