Category Archives: #PersonalDevelopment
The ability to understand how your behavior impacts others. A conscious knowledge of your own character, feelings, motives and desires.
The ability to understand others needs and concerns. Also called social awareness.
Notice how both of these definitions imply the impact you make on others around you.
Why would self-awareness be defined if it didn’t recognize the cause and effect our own actions make on other people? Because all leaders make an continued impact, benevolent or malign, on others.
The stark reality is that, according to a recent Forbes article, about 15% of people are truly self-aware. That means a high probability that many of us are not truly self-aware.
Someone truly self-aware will examine themselves and how their actions and presence make others feel and react.
You measure yourself by how much character you exhibited at that meeting, and how you were able to keep silent while others spoke, or at least asked questions to engage a deeper conversation.
Self awareness allows us to critique ourselves against what the meta is for human interaction and positive influence.
And the irony is, that you can’t be truly self aware unless you have enough EQ to be others aware.
When you know the implications of your motives comparative to others, the you can safely say you have self awareness.
But it doesn’t begin and end with ourselves. It begins with others and ends with others. We just have to be open minded to know how we as the conduit transmit vision, goals and actions.
Self awareness is about others in the end game.
And that is the great paradox.
Are we willing to be self-aware enough to impact others better than we did yesterday?
“Swing for the Fences.”
BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goals).
These phrases are great ways to help gain a mindset of the bigger picture, the far horizon which is the ultimate goal.
Yet they can convey the thinking that you have to “go big or go home” in every action and transaction in order to succeed in those lofty goals.
We need to remember that sometime the road to success comes from those smaller, incremental actions and wins that steer us ever closer to our definitive goals.
Just like a snail slowly glides across the pavement, seemingly not moving, our daily actions – as long as they align with our vision – may not seem to get us anywhere fast. But eventually we’ll end up there. We look back on the snail and it’s suddenly gone to it’s destination, in the same way we will soon look back and find that we’re so much closer to our goal, if not already there.
Big actions are great, but it’s each small step that give us lasting satisfaction and keep us on track to the vast horizon.
Nobody gets a millions dollars in their bank account in one transaction. It is usually a buildup of saving here and there over time.
Inch by inch. Step by step. Failure then victory. Frustration before achievement.
Each Small Step Leads To Success
Rome wasn’t built in a day. Neither was Amazon, Samsung or Daimler.
Don’t discount the smaller steps. Savor the incremental growth, and those small wins to the path of victory.
We live in a time-starved world. New challenges and duties that must be met with urgency (whether yours or someone else’s). Shifting focuses that change daily, disrupting our efforts. Outside influences that pick us off from our targeted objectives.
We have many of the same challenges when we examine our personal lives as well. When our careers and home lives converge, it can become quite overwhelming.
There is as much a time crisis as there is a leadership crisis these days. Yet in order for great leaders to be effective and instigate change, they need to attain some harmony of a work-life balance as well.
Work-life management is like a buffet – there are a variety of options, you just need to choose the ones that work for you and put them into action.
For instance, Tal Schnall wrote in his Leadership Cafe blog about some strategies that leaders can use to achieve this elusive work-life balance. Talent Culture regularly posts strategies on how this balance can be sustained. These are just some examples of how leaders are reaching out to help stabilize the noise in today’s hectic world. Motivation To Move recently had a podcast that shows a rolling 7-day week to keep goals progressing.
Today I present a quick sampling of a technique I call “The 7-Day Way” to help achieve some balance in our professional and personal lives.
- Take a piece of paper, your Moleskine, Franklin Planner, Planner Pad, smartphone, tablet, etc and jot down 7 life areas or roles that comprise your life. For instance, one can use: Faith, Family, Development, Work, Recreational, Health, Social. Another can use Parent, Coach, Administrator, Creator and other roles. Make them yours and relevant to your goals. These are areas that you want to focus and spend some elusive time on.
- Look at the week ahead. Take each life area and write down what day you will focus on that. Think of it as dragging the task from your to-do list and dropping it on your calendar. (For me, I have Faith on Sunday, Thursdays are time spent on extra work activities, Saturday mornings are Home projects). You can keep the same areas on the same days (see my example below on #7), or you can change them week to week.
- Look at your to-do list (or your “to-be” list). Find the most important task to be done in each category and make a time on that day for it. It’s doesn’t matter how long it takes – 2 hours, 30 minutes, or even 5 minutes to change a doorknob or write a book outline. Morning, lunch break, evening after dinner, late at night before retiring, however your schedule permits. What matters is that you have the time to focus on that goal.
- Look at this list daily, morning and night (3-5 minutes). Do it while you have your morning coffee or evening tea. What happens is that you know on Saturday afternoon is a time to talk with your neighbor or read or get the materials for that research paper. When you can see the next few days ahead, you start to plan to achieve those tasks and your mind will be in gear formulating the ways to accomplish it.
- Be forgiving and flexible. If a day gets so busy that you were not able to work in that life area, don’t fret. Just plan it for another time that week, or schedule it in the next week. You may find there are days you can accomplish more than 1 life area task in the same day.
- Reschedule, and build on the past week. As mentioned, if a task simply cannot be done, reschedule. As the weeks go on, you may find that your Mondays become more open for you to read, and you will start to look forward to that time for relaxing and growing.
- Have fun. While the discipline this creates is wonderful, you must also be flexible and have fun with this. Don’t sweat the missed days. Use a white board w/ color coded markers, or a calendar with magnets or stickers. Be unique and make it yours. I included a sample infographic below for you as a guide.
While this method is only one of many methods out there for you to be more productive, I believe the flexibility and ease of this method will give it effectiveness and longevity in your life’s pursuits.
Work hard. Play hard. Rest easy!!
(infographic: Paul LaRue © 2019)