Category Archives: #PersonalDevelopment
Projects that cascade down.
Texts and calls.
Other peoples urgencies overriding yours.
You’re busy and just trying to keep up in a daily survival to accomplish the most basic of tasks. No time to get anything else done.
But did you take any time to learn anything?
Did you learn to think for 2 minutes while driving about how you could have handled a situation better? Take the time to be more self-aware about how you come across?
Do you find time while travelling by plane, car, rideshare to listen to a short podcast, read a quick few pages, peruse an industry article?
Take 120 seconds to let your brain rest before charging into the next meeting? Breathe and feel your energy and calmness restored? Learn that a quick recharge is beneficial to your body and well being?
Can you watch others interact and learn how to better engage others? Or hear what they’re talking about and notice trends in the market or workplace?
The opportunity to learn and be able to bring value to others – and ourselves – is all around us for the taking.
We just need to be aware of it and take just a couple of minutes – not too long – to be attentive to learning and soak it it.
You’ll be amazed at your conversations, your knowledge base and your confidence when you do.
The ability to understand how your behavior impacts others. A conscious knowledge of your own character, feelings, motives and desires.
The ability to understand others needs and concerns. Also called social awareness.
Notice how both of these definitions imply the impact you make on others around you.
Why would self-awareness be defined if it didn’t recognize the cause and effect our own actions make on other people? Because all leaders make an continued impact, benevolent or malign, on others.
The stark reality is that, according to a recent Forbes article, about 15% of people are truly self-aware. That means a high probability that many of us are not truly self-aware.
Someone truly self-aware will examine themselves and how their actions and presence make others feel and react.
You measure yourself by how much character you exhibited at that meeting, and how you were able to keep silent while others spoke, or at least asked questions to engage a deeper conversation.
Self awareness allows us to critique ourselves against what the meta is for human interaction and positive influence.
And the irony is, that you can’t be truly self aware unless you have enough EQ to be others aware.
When you know the implications of your motives comparative to others, the you can safely say you have self awareness.
But it doesn’t begin and end with ourselves. It begins with others and ends with others. We just have to be open minded to know how we as the conduit transmit vision, goals and actions.
Self awareness is about others in the end game.
And that is the great paradox.
Are we willing to be self-aware enough to impact others better than we did yesterday?
“Swing for the Fences.”
BHAG (Big Hairy Audacious Goals).
These phrases are great ways to help gain a mindset of the bigger picture, the far horizon which is the ultimate goal.
Yet they can convey the thinking that you have to “go big or go home” in every action and transaction in order to succeed in those lofty goals.
We need to remember that sometime the road to success comes from those smaller, incremental actions and wins that steer us ever closer to our definitive goals.
Just like a snail slowly glides across the pavement, seemingly not moving, our daily actions – as long as they align with our vision – may not seem to get us anywhere fast. But eventually we’ll end up there. We look back on the snail and it’s suddenly gone to it’s destination, in the same way we will soon look back and find that we’re so much closer to our goal, if not already there.
Big actions are great, but it’s each small step that give us lasting satisfaction and keep us on track to the vast horizon.
Nobody gets a millions dollars in their bank account in one transaction. It is usually a buildup of saving here and there over time.
Inch by inch. Step by step. Failure then victory. Frustration before achievement.
Each Small Step Leads To Success
Rome wasn’t built in a day. Neither was Amazon, Samsung or Daimler.
Don’t discount the smaller steps. Savor the incremental growth, and those small wins to the path of victory.