Category Archives: Personal Development
A few years ago, the NBA changed its rules and replaced the “20 second timeout” (which actually lasted about 60 seconds) with a more consistent timeout structure to benefit the pace of play and fan experience.
It was a good move on their part to replace it.
However, it may be a better move on our parts to implement it.
In our time-starved work cultures, for the time it takes to wash our hands properly, 20 seconds can be immensely beneficial in a myriad of ways.
Let’s consider the benefits to taking 20 seconds:
- Time to breathe deeply and relax
- Time to stretch and stand
- A quick recollection of thought process
- Necessary time to read an email in context (especially the body of the email)
- Time to quell emotions before an email reply
- The ability to ponder a difficult analysis
- Shooting off a quick text to encourage someone
- A chance to look over your goals or dreams and re-inspire your purpose
- A harbor of time to pray or meditate
- Being thankful for what you have
Imagine the impact on our attitudes, perspective, relationships and harmony of life if we implemented a “20 second timeout” in our daily routine.
It’s time we all can afford.
As with many leaders, what the current pandemic, economic conditions and social unrest has brought to challenge our leadership bandwith is – to use a word that is now cliche – unprecedented.
And with the tsunami of situations to navigate through comes increased demands on our time, mind, body and spirit.
The need for us to be more, for more people, is most likely at an all time high in our careers. Yet while we generally are able to rise to the current needs, we must not neglect probably the most important need of all,
Remembering the needs we individually have in order to be effective, healthy and thrive.
The ability to balance our self care with leading by serving others is at a crisis of sorts. Because, as stated by an Accenture article, leaders are having to meet Now instead of thinking of Next (and forgetting for the most part Never Normal), we are reaching a frenetic pace that can eclipse our own physical and mental abilities to meet every need.
The urgency and complexity of meeting economic shortfall, pivoting to a digital platform, and ramping up new skills and competencies – while still being able to conduct the “usual” tasks associated with our roles – threatens to create short and long-term physical and mental issues. And we’re only starting to see the tip of the iceberg as to these symptoms.
It’s imperative for leaders to be able to identify and meet our own needs so we are able to elevate our ability to meet these new challenges. Here are a few tips to ensure you meet your own needs as well.
- Take a personal inventory weekly. 15 minutes of uninterrupted quiet time at the beginning of the week is enough to allow you to think and assess what you need. Write down those things you know you need to do this week – eat better, exercise, read, spend family time. Then determine to block off that time for those aspects you need.
- Set aside time to STOP. Whether it’s a schedule break or just a 5 minute breather, it’s essential to pause, and even STOP for a few minutes and walk away. This allows your brain to rest, your body to relax, and your perspective to get a clearer vision of what is going on.
- Schedule breaks throughout the day. I’ve known some people who before covid occurred used to take a number of breaks, some even every hour to walk around the office. The have generally been happier, more productive and healthier as their level of stress was lowered. Your own needs may vary, but taking a few of these breaks can actually help you be more efficient.
- Schedule time to end your day. Whether your day runs a normal workday length or needs to go longer due to various demands and/or activities, you need to have a time built in to cease working and tend to yourself and your family. It’s so easy nowadays to run work activities up until you retire at night, but it allows no time to decompress and meet the needs of those in your household or yourself. Make sure you quit at quitting time.
- Schedule time to learn and pivot. With increased demands on our time, we may tend to push aside time to pivot and learn the platforms and skills needed for us to grow, be more productive, and leverage technology to make our efforts more enjoyable. Schedule that time to learn where you will be most attentive and have the least distractions. You may find you have ample time to grow after all.
- Know when to work more. Unfortunately, sometimes the days must go long. If you know ahead of time that a particular week will be heavy, or certain projects are bearing down towards a deadline, make sure those key days are blocked off to allow yourself the ability to go longer, whether it’s an earlier morning or a later evening. Knowing ahead of time that you are taking that time frame to accomplish a goal will give you a refreshed and energized focus to complete the task.
- Schedule your vacation. There are many leaders who are backed up with vacation time and haven’t accessed some extra time off. While part of that might be the hesitancy to travel amid the current pandemic, that should not prevent you from taking a week off. Vacation time has probably never been more essential as it is now. The importance of taking your vacation rises with the urgency of your workload. Mark off your time and make plans to refresh.
- Plan your downtime. Believe it or not, planning your downtime is an effective away to ensure you meet your needs and not just mindlessly waste that precious time. Make that last hour of your day to read a relaxing novel. Take the first 30 minutes after dinner to walk with your family (and dog). Get on that treadmill collecting dust in your basement. Write that book you’ve put off for years. These are great ways to redeem your time by meeting your goals or refresh time.
These are just a few of the myriad ways to meet our personal needs as leaders. The most essential one is taking the time to asses them, then planning to make that happen.
Self-care is as important as it ever was. By mastering yourself and your needs that care for yourself, you will be a more effective influence than just grinding out the work to meet everyone else’s needs.
We had high hopes for 2020 this past January.
There was no way any of us could have predicted the dramatic events for the first 5 months. Global pandemic. Racial murders. Rioting and looting. Worldwide economic turmoil.
This past week’s senseless murder of a black citizen at the hands of a white officer, and the resulting violent protests while not only grievous, can only teach us one truth.
You can only change the world by changing you.
Much of my writing has been geared towards inward directed leadership, with the realization that if you want to change the world, it starts with the person on the inside. Unless an individual determines in their heart to change, to respect and treat all people with value and to focus their efforts on changing the person on the inside, then no real lasting pivots can ever result.
It is up to you – and me – each of us individually to make the change we desire.
We can change the attitudes of our employees when we treat them right. We can change the course of a toxic leader when we leave their company.
We can change the perception of tribalism by showing respect and empathy to others who are different. We can make that other person feel comfortable by validating their voice and giving them value as a fellow human being.
We can vote for our elected leaders. We can shut off the biased news media and not feed into social media trolls. We can also find the truth in our news sources and determine to study what’s true.
We can respond in righteous anger and make positive change by doing no harm, or we can join in the needless destruction of property of those who are innocent because our anger justifies it.
We can choose not to farm out our individual responsibilities to someone else and take ownership for our lives.
We can work towards changing our lateral relationships towards others. We can also work towards changing our vertical relationship towards heaven.
But it has to start with you. I know because it starts with me. I can’t change you, and neither can you change me. But if we both show an example of change together we can multiply our efforts.
I saw two quotes on social media since George Floyd’s murder last week that unfortunately blame the problems in our world towards forces remote and larger than us. No disrespect to those that wrote them, but it gives a feeling of hopelessness and that the system is against us.
Society manifests what leadership tolerates.
The system is not broken it was built this way.
Great leaders, and great people, take responsibility for their world, so I’ve inverted these saying to reflect this thinking on how you can change the world around you.
Leadership tolerates what society manifests.
The system is not built this way it was broken.
The greatest changes in world history have not been from the top down, but common people choosing to change their response. And if we choose so, we can do the same.
Examine yourself and your motives. Closely. What makes you willingly disrespect and devalue another human being needs to change.
Change can only start at the top if leaders at the top change. Most of us are not at the top, but are closer to the foundation of the right type of change – respectful, thoughtful and mutually beneficial – that the world can build upon.
The greatest hope in our world is that we all have the ability to change. We simply must choose to do so. Even if it means sacrificing our selfish ambitions, status and possibly friends. All great change in ourselves is rewarded at some level far beyond what we gave up to attain it.
And it starts with you.