#ThursdayThought – The Self Awareness Paradox
The ability to understand how your behavior impacts others. A conscious knowledge of your own character, feelings, motives and desires.
The ability to understand others needs and concerns. Also called social awareness.
Notice how both of these definitions imply the impact you make on others around you.
Why would self-awareness be defined if it didn’t recognize the cause and effect our own actions make on other people? Because all leaders make an continued impact, benevolent or malign, on others.
The stark reality is that, according to a recent Forbes article, about 15% of people are truly self-aware. That means a high probability that many of us are not truly self-aware.
Someone truly self-aware will examine themselves and how their actions and presence make others feel and react.
You measure yourself by how much character you exhibited at that meeting, and how you were able to keep silent while others spoke, or at least asked questions to engage a deeper conversation.
Self awareness allows us to critique ourselves against what the meta is for human interaction and positive influence.
And the irony is, that you can’t be truly self aware unless you have enough EQ to be others aware.
When you know the implications of your motives comparative to others, the you can safely say you have self awareness.
But it doesn’t begin and end with ourselves. It begins with others and ends with others. We just have to be open minded to know how we as the conduit transmit vision, goals and actions.
Self awareness is about others in the end game.
And that is the great paradox.
Are we willing to be self-aware enough to impact others better than we did yesterday?